Every Conflict Offers an Opportunity to Teach

Becky A. Bailey Ph.D.,in her book, "Easy to Love, Difficult to
Discipline" states that, "Every conflict offers an opportunity to
teach."

So when conflicts occur (as they always will) we can say to
ourselves, "Here is an opportunity to teach and learn."

She states: "Every conflict presents you with a choice. You can
choose to view conflict as an opportunity to teach or as an
opportunity to blame and punish. If you set out to punish the "bad
guy," you will destroy your own self-esteem and that of your
children.

If, instead, you use times of conflict as teaching opportunities, you
will enhance your own self-respect and allow your children to
maintain their sense of worth. You will also increase the chance
that, when future conflicts arise, the children will be able to
resolve them without you."

Later on Dr. Bailey writes the following:

*If you catch yourself saying, "How can I make my child _____?"
change the question to, "How can I help my child to be more likely
to choose to _____?"
*Change your "shoulds" to "coulds." Then make a choice.
*Practice allowing others to have their own thought and feelings.
Resist the urge to try and make others happy or convince them you
have all the answers."

Dr. Bailey goes on to explain how to go about doing this in her book.
If you would be interested in reading it then you can review it here:


Have a great day!

Wendy Jensen
http://www.firstratefamily.com

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